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Sunday, March 27

Approaching people.

So I notice that a big problem I have, and a problem many socially awkward people have is how to approach someone. How to make small talk, things of that nature that seem like they should come natural are often difficult to..well the more nerdy of us.
I just recently came out of my shell, and I'm still having trouble, so I've developed, and read about some methods to help with the most basic of social interactions.

One thing that has helped me a ton is the fact that I smoke. I'm not an addict, I smoke very casually, maybe a pack a week.
So that gives me one very easy opening to get into conversation; "Do you have a lighter?"
It's simple, and it works. Conversation has been initiated, and through that you can ask the basic questions, the Who, where, and such.

Another strategy is, if you are a social gathering, to find out who the person is ahead of time.
"Oh, you're ________, right? Yeah ______ mentioned you."
And from there, you can build.

a third rather popular item is to find someone on someones person and ask about it.
For example, I wear a bobby pin and a rubber band around my wrist, soley so people have something to say if they want to talk to me. To do away with that initial awkwardness.
"Okay, dude, I hate to ask, but why do you have a bobby pin on your wrist?"
and there, he's in. Conversation initiated, the initial awkwardness is gone.

9 comments:

  1. nice tips.

    btw, it's hard to read the text with the near black background.

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  2. i tend to open up with an insult. then again i'm usually fucking hammered.

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  3. Interesting methods. First only works if the person smokes and if not you may turn them away from you although I guess you could apply it to other things. The second and third methods are pretty good I will say.

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  4. This is decent information. Honestly though, if you looked anything close to Clint, you wouldn't need these little tips.

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  5. What worked for me is getting a job that requires constant interaction. I got over the anxiety and will now talk to anyone. Being forced to do it really helps.

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  6. You guys can't be serious. You don't have to use methods to talk to people. I just use a regular "Hi!" and start making questions.

    Some questions are tricky and makes the person prove their value, so they invest dedication on the talk and there you go.

    You can become very close friends with someone just because of the "Hi!". At least that's how it works in my country.

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  7. "You guys can't be serious. You don't have to use methods to talk to people. I just use a regular "Hi!" and start making questions.

    Some questions are tricky and makes the person prove their value, so they invest dedication on the talk and there you go.

    You can become very close friends with someone just because of the "Hi!". At least that's how it works in my country."

    If you just walk up to a random person and say 'Hi!' they will
    1. Think your mugging them
    or
    2. Think you're too aggressive, and forceful.
    or
    3. Think you're try hard.
    or
    4. Think you're a regular guy saying hi.
    Sure, for the most part, yes. A person will just continue on with the conversation, but there are some situations where you do need some vague pathway into conversation.

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